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Es ist vollbracht! Diese Woche hat der weltbeste Ehemann seine Doktorarbeit verteidigt, und das trotz Aufregung locker, flockig und charmant. Wie auch sonst, wenn man statt eines Jackets sein Lieblings-Shirt von XKCD anhat. Damit geht ein großes Kapitel unseres Lebens zu Ende und man könnte ja direkt sentimental werden, wenn man nicht so unglaublich geschafft wäre.
Vier Jahre hat diese Doktorarbeit unser Leben dominiert.Vier Jahre, in denen wir geheiratet haben, zweimal umgezogen sind, Fernbeziehung gehabt haben, ein Kind bekommen haben, kurz in Finnland gelebt haben, kirchlich geheiratet haben, noch ein Kind bekommen haben….in denen leider auch zwei unserer Großeltern gestorben sind. Vier Jahre, von denen Karsten drei Jahre jeden Tag im Sommer komplett geschafft und sonnenverbrannt vom Feld nach Hause kam. In denen wir über Weißklee und nervige Mitmenschen geschimpft haben. In denen ich aus meinem Job rausgemobbt wurde und zwischenzeitlich selber bei Karsten auf dem Feld gearbeitet habe, bis ich schwanger wurde (und selbst dann noch). In denen der längste Familienurlaub exakt eine Woche dauerte (und das genau einmal). In denen Freizeit und Unternehmungen oft auf der Strecke blieben, wir teilweise jeden Franken gezählt haben und sich der Kaffeekonsum drastisch gesteigert hat. Aber auch vier Jahre voller schöner Erlebnisse, und vier Jahre, in denen wir zahlreiche wirklich großartige und lebensbereichernde Menschen kennengelernt haben.
Und jetzt? Wissen wir nicht. Für unseren erhofften Plan gab es kurz vor der Verteidigung leider eine Absage. Wäre ja auch zu einfach gewesen.
Aber irgendetwas wird schon kommen. Und ruhiger als die letzten Jahre wird es wohl auf jeden Fall werden. Oder?
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It’s done! This week, the world’s best husband successfully defended his PhD thesis. And despite being slightly nervous, he managed it in such a competent and charming way that made me really proud. But what else can you expect when the guy is wearing his favourite xkcd shirt instead of a jacket. So, here we are, closing one big chapter of our lives. Almost a reason to feel sentimental, if we wouldn’t be dead tired.
For four years, this PhD thesis has been dominating our lives. Four years during which we married, moved twice, had a long-distant-relationship in between, gave birth to a child, shortly lived in Finland, had our church wedding, had another child…and during which we unfortunately mourned two of our grandparents. Four years…three of them during which Karsten came home from the field completly exhausted and sunburned every single day of the summer. During which we cursed white clover and some annoying people. During which I was bullied out of my job and started to work on Karsten’s field until I got pregnant (and continued even then). During which our longest holiday as a family lasted exactly one week (and took place exactly one time). During which free time and trips fell by the wayside, we economised and during which our coffee consumption hit the roof. But also four years of beautiful adventures and four years during which we met so many truly incredible and life-enhancing people.
And now? We don’t know. A few days before the defence we unfortunately received a letter of refusal for our favourite option. Would have been to easy, wouldn’t it?
But something will turn up. And the upcoming years will definitely be a bit more easy than the last ones. Won’t they?
It’s been a while since I wanted to give (and take!) some news. Anyway before having the time for a proper email, congratulations!!!! To your best husband in the world of course, but also to you cause I know that you’ve been so supportive during these years. I wish you now all the best for the future. We’re obviously a bit sad that the scandinavian option did not worked… but hey who knows what’s coming next for all of us? We might have a chance anywhere, anytime to be together again and for a longer period.
Meanwhile, here the end of an era is also in the air. Regarding Nico’s PhD for now since we still don’t have any clue of a future job for him, and hence of our future place to live!
Nevermind everything’s going fine, the four of us are really great and we’re enjoying finnish summer as it must be.
I hope that everything will go smoothly for you in the next months. Congratulations again and love and kisses to the all family 🙂
Everything will be fine : Allow yourself to revel in the magnificent event that is and live in the moment. I find that when I don’t look for problems, they rarely find me… which leaves nothing but spaace for the good. 🙂
Thank you! I’ll try my best, though I must admit that I have been struggling a bit during the last weeks.
It’s not easy… the last year has been a nightmare for us financially… But after a whole year of struggling, we are finally catching a break. It will happen. xo